Rules about chocolate: a sermon on insults, abuse, and lies

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Children’s Message

I handed a small box to Jonah and asked him to open it.  Inside: heart-shaped milk chocolates, foil wrapped. “Today,” I explained, “we’re going to talk about rules for chocolate.”

Jenna, whose mother has diagnosed her with “chronic cuteness syndrome,” narrowed her eyes and pouted in an exceptional ham-it-up moment.

“Rules for eating chocolate,” I insisted.  “Like:  You take the foil off.”

“And throw it away!”  Valerie reminded me.  “No littering.”

“And you use your mouth,” I added.  “You can’t eat it with your nose.”  Giggles and protesting.  “And of course, if you put candy in front of kids, you should bring enough to share.”  

As they dove eager hands into the box, I continued.  “But chocolate is a treat.  Maybe we should have a rule about savoring it.  To truly savor it you can only eat it very slowly — you have to sit for 30 seconds and look at it before you can put it in your mouth.”  A double-down glare from Jenna.  “And you know,”  I added, “in case there isn’t more later you should only eat the corners now.  And technically Valentine’s Day isn’t for two more days so you can’t eat it till then!”

Amid the shouts and chaos of being presented with chocolate they now could not eat, I suggested that we scrap those last three rules, and simply listen to today’s scripture for what rules were helpful, and what rules sounded like a burden.

“One more rule, though,” I said, opening a much larger box, “–if you bring chocolate for the kids, you should bring some for the adults too.”  And Jenna was happy to pass it out as we heard the Scripture.

 

Scripture

Deuteronomy 30:11-20

Moses spoke the words of the Lord to the people Israel:
Surely, this commandment that I give you today
is not too hard for you, nor is it too far away.
It is not in heaven, that you should say,
“Who will go up to heaven for us, and get it for us
so that we may hear and follow it?”
Neither is it beyond the sea, that you should say,
“Who will cross to the other side of the sea for us,
so that we may hear and follow it?”
No, the word is very near to you; it is in your mouth and in your heart for you to follow.

See, I have set before you today life and prosperity, death and adversity. If you obey the commandments of the Lord your God that I give you today, loving the Lord your God, walking in God’s ways, and observing all the commandments, decrees, and ordinances, then you shall live and become numerous, and the Lord your God will bless you in the land that you are entering. But if your heart turns away and you do not hear, but are led astray to bow down to other gods and serve them, I declare to you today that you shall perish; you shall not live long in the land that you are crossing the Jordan to enter and possess. I call heaven and earth to witness against you today that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses.

We will choose life, so that we may live,
loving the Lord our God, obeying God, holding fast to God.

Matthew 5:21-37

When Jesus saw the crowds, he went up a mountain. He sat down and his disciples came to him, and he taught them, saying:

“You have heard that it was said to those who lived long ago, ‘You shall not murder’, and ‘all who commit murder will be in danger of judgment.’ But I say to you that everyone who is angry with their brother or sister will be in danger of judgment. Anyone who says to their brother or sister, ‘You idiot’ will be in danger of being condemned by the governing council. Anyone who says, ‘You fool’ will be in danger of fiery hell. Therefore, if you bring your gift to the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift at the altar and go. First make things right with your brother or sister and then come back and offer your gift. Be sure to make friends quickly with your opponents while you are with them on the way to court. Otherwise, they will haul you before the judge, the judge will turn you over to the officer of the court, and you will be thrown into prison. Truly I tell you, you won’t get out of there until you’ve paid the very last penny.

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that every man who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery in his heart. If your right eye causes you to fall into sin, tear it out and throw it away. It’s better that you lose a part of your body than that your whole body be thrown into hell. If your right hand causes you to fall into sin, cut it off and throw it away. It’s better that you lose a part of your body than that your whole body go into hell.

“It was said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife must give her a divorce certificate.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife except for infidelity forces her to commit adultery. And whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

“Again you have heard that it was said to those who lived long ago: ‘Don’t make a solemn pledge falsely; follow through on what you have pledged to the Lord.’ But I say to you that you must not pledge at all. You must not pledge by heaven, because it’s God’s throne. You must not pledge by the earth, because it’s God’s footstool. You must not pledge by Jerusalem, because it’s the city of the great king. And you must not pledge by your head, because you can’t turn one hair white or black. Let your yes mean yes, and your no mean no. Anything more than this comes from the evil one.”

 

Sermon

Last week, we heard how Jesus said to his disciples: “Unless your righteousness exceeds that of the scribes and Pharisees, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.”

The scribes and Pharisees were the religious elite of first-century Jewish life. They were the priests, the readers, the theological scholars. They interpreted the Jewish scriptures (what we know as the Old Testament) and taught people how to apply them to their lives. For example: work on the Sabbath, the seventh day, was forbidden, as a remembrance of the seventh day of creation when God rested. But how much work was forbidden? Could you cook food for dinner? Could you light a fire? This is the kind of thing they would debate — and often, they would come down with a ruling that made things really hard for everyday people. They were so caught up in the minutia of making sure the rules were never, ever broken that they put impossible burdens on their people — the faithful Jewish people living under Roman rule.

And Jesus says to his disciples, “Those guys? The ones who study the law so closely, who spend day and night researching how to follow it perfectly? Your righteousness, your rule-following, has to exceed theirs.”

But then Jesus keeps going — and when Jesus keeps going, the rules start to taste a little different.

“You have heard it said,” he says, “‘You shall not murder’.” But then he says: just as wrong is anger, and hatred, and bearing a grudge. It’s not just your outward actions that make a difference. If you’re walking around with resentment and unfinished business, it doesn’t matter if you’re making the right sacrifices. What’s in your heart is what matters.

“You have heard it said,” Jesus says, “‘you shall not commit adultery.’’ But then he says: just as wrong is objectification, and disrespect, and valuing people only for what they do for you. If you’re walking around treating everyone like they’re just there for your enjoyment, it’d be better if you were blind and not able to see them. It doesn’t matter if you don’t do a thing. What’s in your heart is what matters.

“You have heard it said,” Jesus says, “‘divorce is acceptable if there is a certificate’ — a proper legal procedure.” But then he says: just because it’s legal doesn’t make it right. You’re the only thing she has to live on. It helps to remember that the only way for a woman to survive, in first-century Jewish life, is to be married. She can’t work. She can’t own property. She has no legal representation, no alimony, no child support, absolutely nothing to live on if her husband chooses to put her aside — which he could do for absolutely any reason. So Jesus says to the husbands: if you treat her like she’s something you can idly put aside, you are actively destroying her chances at a good life. And you need to take responsibility for that. Whether or not it’s legal is not the question — it’s what in your heart, and what your impact is on others, that matters.

“You have heard it said,” Jesus says, “‘carry out the vows you made to God.” But then he says: don’t make vows. Don’t swear by anything. Just tell the truth, straight from your heart — that’s where things matter. Yes, vows can be beautiful when they are made for marriage or just to be someone’s best friend forever, but what matters is whether those are carried out. What makes a difference is walking the walk once you’ve talked the talk.

Jesus takes these rules, the burdens of the scribes and Pharisees, and moves the concern from our actions to our intentions. “Your righteousness must exceed that of the scribes and Pharisees, because it’s no longer just about what your body is doing but your heart. Checking off boxes, earning points, following the letter of the law — that has only a little to do with true righteousness.”

Instead of rooting righteousness in how we behave toward God, how perfect or pious or saint-like we might appear, Jesus defines righteousness as how we behave towards others. He looks at the crowds who have come to hear him preach and see him heal, and he gathers his disciples close to him and says: You are going to be tasked with a hard and messy message: the proclamation of love.

Not just the kind of love you can box up with candy hearts and milk chocolate kisses. Not just the kind of love that writes grand poetry and brings home flowers on special days. It’s a much more challenging kind of love — the kind that forces us to let go of ourselves and open our hands to others.

The kind of hard and messy love that leads to reconciliation. That lets go of anger. The kind of love where you start to love your brother, your sister, your family, your neighbor, even your enemy.

The kind of hard and messy love that creates connection. That lets go of of objectification. The kind of love that’s not just not lusting after someone but of recognizing the humanity of everyone.

The kind of hard and messy love that leads to mercy and compassion. Love that recognizes when you are in power, like the men of the 1st century who could cast aside their wife for any slight they decided on. Recognizing that you have the chance to ruin someone’s life or to save it — to take the easy advantage or to remember that you are dealing with someone who is, just as much as you are, a beloved child of God.

The kind of hard and messy love that creates honesty and vulnerability. That lets you tell the truth. That doesn’t protect itself behind laws and vows but daring to say what you mean and mean what you say.

This is life. This is what God begs us to choose, in Deuteronomy chapter 30: Keep my commandments. Live. Really live. The people of Israel have wandered in the desert for forty years and now stand on the banks of the Jordan about to pass into the promised land, and God says: I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Choose life. Choose love. Choose to love me with all your heart and soul and mind and strength, and choose to love your neighbor as yourself.

This is life. And it’s hard. It is so hard in the midst of our political divisions and worries about money and stress at work and sick kids at home and broken relationships and awful bosses and too much homework and too much to do to remember that we have been offered this gift, this sweetness of living in love instead.

It’s harder than the righteousness of the scribes and Pharisees. It’s harder than a life of law, where we know who’s in and who’s out. And it’s worth it. It’s so, so worth it. And that is why God gives us a chance new, every morning. That is why we bring our babies and our children and our selves to baptism, to the promises of God that every single morning we are washed clean and get a fresh start to choose what is good — to choose life. Not darkness. Not pain. Not distrust and manipulation and objectification and heartbreak, but life. Honesty and vulnerability and intention and compassion. To live in love, right from the heart.

Today’s a new chance. Let’s take it.

Amen.

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